Did I Marry The Right Person?

This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here... 
Those who are already married or in a commitment may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ... 

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? 

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" 
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" 
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" 

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer. 
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit) . 

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. 
You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU. 

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. 

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. 

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. 

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" 
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. 
This is when marriages or relationships breakdown. People blame their spouse/partner for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage/relationship for fulfillment. 

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. 
But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, excessive TV, or abusive substances. 

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. 
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. 
You could. 

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): 

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. 

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage/relationship work. Sure true love can only happen after you've fallen out of love. When you begin choosing to love, even if you don't feel like doing it ---- that's true love. And that's the foundation of a lasting and strong marriage. 


Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. 

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. 
It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can "make"love. 

Love is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling. You'll not just go away with your relationship just because the feeling is gone. In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen.

Remember this always: 

"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go." 

"Marriage is more than saying I Do. Marriage, like a precious plant, needs constant tending for it to grow, flourish, and bear fruit to last a lifetime, and beyond."
-David and Evelyn Feliciano

Desktop Computer Cases

Different Cases for Different Jobs

Computer cases are broken down into several general types, or form factors. These are meant for different situations, or to hold particular types of motherboards.

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• Mid-tower: This is the most common type of computer case, and stands about two feet tall, and can hold most motherboards and the typical number of hard dives, media drives, and expansion cards for a typical desktop system without undue crowding. (High-powered graphics cards can cause problems.)
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• Full tower: This is effectively just a larger, taller version of the mid-tower, about 2 1/2 feet tall, with more room for drives and extended ATX motherboards. They are typically used for independent server systems, or high-end gaming machines that need extra room for graphics cards and cooling.
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• Mini-tower: A smaller (shorter) version of the mid-tower, it is best used with micro-ATX boards or smaller, and is good for lightweight systems that do not need a lot of powerful components.
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• Desktop: This is much the same as a mid-tower, but is designed to lie on one side, instead of being stood up. Tower designs often stand on the floor, while desktops sit... on top of the desk.
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• Slimline desktop: This a thinner (shorter) version of the desktop. It is excellent as the chassis of a workstation, but is too limited in space for a more capable machine.
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• Ultra small: The ultra small form factor case is usually seen in lightweight 'barebones' systems and can be the basis of an excellent lightweight/portable desktop system, though the need to use a micro-ATX board will keep it from being very fancy.

Puray Falls: reliving healthy living.

It's been a while since I used my bike. I used to ride my bike to different places. mostly off road, terrain on mountains, and usually one trip is always a whole day event. We usually leave at around 5 or 6am, bring our lunch boxes with us some drinks. some food to cook of course and some snack. We meet-up in a designated place which is marked our starting point. some rode their bike to the meeting place some others bring their car since we have friends that came all the way from the south.

pinoy mt bikers

after breakfast we all rode hard and fast to our destination.

ahh just a flat road.. boring. :)

ok now we're going up the mountains

This is the most tiring part. But at least no more smoke belching vehicles, no more pollution, only us and nature.

stop over

we had to stop over at this little barangay so we can replenish ourselves with some drinks and food. This was our last stop before we go to our destination.

Ride like a Girl

Some cam-whoring here and there before anything else. Who said only guys can ride the mountains? Our friend from Parañaque owns this nice seat in pink :)

then off we go to our destination. We crossed the river like 7 times to before we we're able to reach our destination.

a little more cam-whoring haha!


we reached this little village just right before our destination.
Sadly we can only bring our bikes up to this point and had to trek until we reach our destination. We left our bikes in one of the houses there and contracted someone to cook rice for us.

nice rigs.

Bikes have been set aside as we prepare to trek.

And so we have reached our destination: Puray Falls

Puray Falls

yeyeye! time for the good part. Swimming and lunch time!! wohoo! haha!


our menu for lunch? saraaaap!

it only took 5 mins and everything was gone.


time for swimming.

then after all the fun. we have to prepare to return home already so we can get back to the city in time before it gets dark.


We all got back to our meeting place around 5pm and I got home around 6pm.


This is what mountain biking is all about. fun and excitement despite the tiring experience.


mountain biking is really a good way to take all the stresses brought about by City life out of your system. It's also a good way to exercise. It has been the main reason why i kept my weight low despite my eating habits hahaha! 


It's been a while since I last sat on my bike.


I took it out of the storage, cleaned it. pumped some air on the tires. then off i go.
I did not go to the mountains where we usually play. Instead, I went to U.P. to run some laps on their oval, if you wanna call it oval.


I need to be able to train first before playing in the mountains again, because I need to train my legs. Having cramps while you're up in the mountains can delay your trip big time.


by the way this is my rig:

Honda Bay

This Day was solely meant for our Honda Bay tour. We hired a tour guide that took care of everything van transfer, lunch buffet and boat transfers as well as snorkeling goggles of course. All we had to do is bring ourselves and our cameras.

they picked us up around 7'ish in the morning and I woke up like quarter to seven hahaha! anyhow I got up to get a cup of coffee and ate some instant noodles in the room for breakfast. took my bag with towel and zip-lock for my phone.

Off we go to Honda Bay!

Upon arriving at the pier where our boat patiently awaits. We we're informed by our tour guide to buy some additional drinks, and other things that we may need because all she brought was our lunch food and drinks. Since it is a whole day escapade we bought some mineral water, some iced tea for me, some hair conditioner, some bread for the fishes in the island.

I got some chicha as well for our trip hahaha!

before we went aboard the boat of course we never forget to take pictures together. so there, with our green plastic bags full of drinks and bread

peechur peechur muna

Boarding our Boat

On our way

Bebot eXtreme

Our first stop was "Pambato Reef" Our boat was tied to a platform made of bamboo and there is a bridge made out of bamboo going to the actual snorkeling spot. The platform is securely tied under the sea. strong cables hold it in place.

at the Dock

After the docking station, there is a bridge that connects it to the diving spot which looks like a big turtle which is really cute,

The Bridge and the Turtle-looking Diving Spot!

A view of the docking station

This group of people I must say are true whores.. cam-whores that is. hahaha! So instead of enjoying the reef we instead took a few shots of ourselves. We did enjoy the reef a bit but there we're planktons which was kinda itchy while you're swimming. the view of the reef was really nice about 10-15 feet deep. Everyone was advised to wear the life vests while swimming in the reef.

Someone got lost in the crowd of life vests.

It was a challenge to swim with the vest on. I'm not a good swimmer but it's harder to swim with the vest on I must say, or my vest is smaller for my size. hahaha!

So off we go to our next stop.

Aerial View of Snake Island

the picture above is not mine. you can click on the caption to read the owners own blog. Amazing island isn't it?

Snake Island

Snake Island is not an island full of snakes but rather, an island that stretches at about 3 kilometers and is shaped like a snake. 

There we're huts that line up the island that is used as shelter and picnic spot.

Snorkeling was fun at snake island. We we're allowed to take our vests off, finally!!! 

This is where you get to feed the small fishes. and some big fishes too. We brought pieces of bread and went swimming over corals as we fed the fishes. They we're shy at first but the moment you tore some pieces and show it to them in a second you'd be surrounded by 100's of fishes all trying to get a bite off of your bread. 

I actually enjoyed it here better than in Pambato Reef. The corals are not too deep and can clearly be seen.

I got into a little accident and hit my foot in one of the corals but all in all it was fun. I enjoyed it so much that I kept going back to our hut to get some more bread. There we're also this tiny black school of fishes who we're looking for food at the ground. They actually got my interest and I just kept watching them. I don't know what they are called but it was really nice seeing them. I watched them for sometime and they kept going together as they checked the sand for food.

The Alluring Bread. haha!

We we're hungry already and our tour guide was finished preparing our food.

By the way. Sea food? it's really inexpensive in Palawan I must say, You have to buy some before going home if you're going here.

Our tour guide/Cook

So our menu for lunch was:

Itlog na maalat with Kamatis

Shrimp anyone? hahaha! and Talong marinated with toyo and stuff. 

Palawan fish, I forgot the name..

our ever dearest liempo

Saging! Potassium is the KEY!!

Mango with Bagoong

di pwedeng walang Rice!

Tara! Let's Eat!

After eating I still couldn't get enough of the fishes so I went back to feed some more. My arms we're aching already since some of us went swimming the night before the trip. I wanted to check out the whole snake island by walking but it was too hot and no one wants to go along with me. Instead we took more pictures as the cam-whores that we are.

Japan Japan!

Someone got creative and played with Coke zero

Hahaha!

Is that a camera?

strike a pose

come here fishy fishy!

Me and my ziplock

sunblock anyone?

chismisan moment :)

after our kulitan moments and all that fun in the water we headed to our next stop.

the resort itself had this really nice snorkeling spot. with literally 100's of colorful fishes. although they weren't as friendly as the one's in Snake island, none the less it was a good place to snorkle. lots of corals which is about 5 to 10 feet deep. so the view is really crystal clear, although you have to be careful in stepping on top of those big corals because you might accidentally hit the spot, by that I mean sea urchins.

Sample picture Only!  for reference Only!

So this is how a sea urchin looks like. they come in different colors and sizes and shapes. but they all have this thorn like protrutions from their body. This acts as their protection. In case you accidentally step on one. you'd be feeling a painful sting. anyhow, lets not talk much about that, just Google it

I was already tired from swimming here and there so we went for a P75 worth halo-halo at a nearby store. it was refillable: water, ice, milk all you want! and it tastes good. enough to quench your thirst for you to enjoy the other activities under the sun.

and by the way the store is owned by a popular hotel in Palawan "The Legend Palawan" they also had this "oh so yummy!" banana bread. the whole loaf of banana bread is like P140 and it weighs like 8lbs. and I'm not exaggerating. So if ever you drop by Pandan Island, make sure you take home one of these yummy bread.

The store where the Halo-Halo and the amazing banana bread can be found

hahaha! ok we get it. you can climb

after the first aid.. still posing for pictures.

Too much picture taking eh?

Ok, I guess there's been too much playing for us. Still thankful that this is the only thing that happened to my friend. We we're told to dip into the salt water in cases like these for some healing reasons, I'm not familiar with that but people we're telling my friend to do so, why hesitate, it's just water anyway. Then we found this nice creature near the shore.

Hey! It's Patrick!

after that we decided to rest a bit then go home since it's already 4 in the afternoon. They don't actually allow visitors to stay in any of the islands later than 4:30pm. Well, Yes you can stay later than that, but just in case something happens to you or to anyone. You will be held responsible and not the tourist guides nor the people of Palawan. Safety always comes first for them. One reason probably because late afternoon is when the tides go up and it's the time when the waters are kinda stressed, for lack of a better term.